My most annoying clients have been passive-aggressive, not telling me what I need to know until it’s too late. They like to “be nice” so they don’t upset me, until we halfway through the build and THEN they reveal that they really wanted a blue web site instead the the red one that we are building them. We’ll talk about how to deal with passive-agressive people in a later post. I’m not really sure the best way to deal with them, but I think it involves firearms. I’ll take an angry client over a passive-agressive one any day.
Today I want to talk about dealing with the Angry Client. I personally don’t care if they are angry or not. It might be a product of my deeply cynical attitude towards clients, but they can say or do anything they like and I don’t care, as long as they pay me at the end of the day. It frustrates me that it frustrates the people I work with, but the client doesn’t frustrate me. We tend to take things personally. We should not.
One of the core skills of a Project Manager is to be able to not take anything personally.
This should apply to both the good and the bad. This should apply to people that are both internal or external. We need to be able to communicate with developers, designers, QA, managers, accounting, and Sys Admins in their own language. We need to listen to them, give them directions, ask for help, and generally do whatever it takes to get the job done. We need to be able to communicate with external clients to get decisions made, get direction and input and generally do whatever it takes to get the job done.
Sometimes, that means making them mad. Sometimes it means being their best friend. Maybe we need to beg. Maybe we need to be humiliated so they can feel superior. Maybe we need to buy them lunch. Maybe we need to yell at them. If it means that we need to wear red sweaters and bark like a dog, then we need to do that. None of our feelings matter. It also doesn’t matter that someone thinks you are doing a great job and they love you.
It does not matter what anyone thinks or feels.
All that matters to a Project Manager is getting the project complete, on time and under budget. If you can have a few laughs and make a few friends along the way, so much the better.